Therapy for Women Who are Done Disappearing into Everyone Else’s Life
You’re not selfish for being here. You’re finally paying attention.
Most women who find their way to therapy have spent years — sometimes decades — putting everyone else first. Their kids, their partner, their parents, their boss. They're competent and caring and completely depleted.
And somewhere in the back of their mind is a quiet, guilty thought: if I slow down and focus on myself, everything will fall apart. Or worse — people will think I'm selfish.
So they keep going. Until they can't.
Here’s what happens when you stop abandoning yourself.
The women I work with come in afraid that putting themselves first means taking something away from the people they love. What they find — almost without exception — is the opposite.
When you stop running on empty, you stop resenting the people you're running for. When you get clear on what you actually want to give — versus what you've been giving out of guilt or fear — you show up differently. More present. More patient. More like yourself.
Your family doesn't get less of you. They get a better version of you. And so do you.
You might be in the right place if —
You're somewhere between 40 and 70 and life looks fine from the outside but feels flat on the inside. You're the one who holds it all together and you're exhausted by it. You love your people and you're also quietly furious at them. You can't remember the last time you did something for yourself without feeling guilty about it.
Maybe a relationship is fraying — a grown kid pulling away, a marriage that's gone quiet, a friendship you can't afford to lose. Maybe you're tired of feeling like a supporting character in your own life.
You don't need to be in crisis to come to therapy. You need to be ready to be honest. That's it.
Not ready for one-on-one? There’s another way.
This fall I'm co-facilitating Reclamation: A Return to Self — an 8-week online group for women who are ready to stop abandoning themselves, in the company of other women doing the same thing.
It runs September 16 – November 4, 2026. Space is limited to 12 women and applications close September 2nd.
What we actually do together.
My approach is relational and direct. I'm trained in Relational Life Therapy — developed by Terry Real — which is particularly good at getting underneath the patterns that keep smart, capable women stuck. We don't talk about your life. We figure out what's driving it and we change it.
I also offer nature-based sessions in Evergreen for clients who think more clearly outside four walls. Some of the best breakthroughs happen on a trail.
Sessions are available in-person in Evergreen and Denver, and online throughout Colorado.
Ready to get back on your own list?
Let’s talk and see if we’re a good fit. Free 20-minute consultation.